This state of being , like prisoners in zoo , has had both ups and down. Today I have decided to share with you the darker side of existence during this times. I will admit it took me quiet amount of thought to believe, that I will be vulnerable enough in front of you, and vent out on the unwanted feelings. In years of wandering , I have come to believe that honesty is better to keep, life simple and frank. In a age of think positive , and be positive , I do not know if this post will come out to be a little pessimistic. However , If my venting , matches with your situation, then be assured your and my misery is the same. We are both in the darker phase of the locked down.
One of the effects of social distancing and isolation from home, is that we are left, much more than usual, with ourselves. Who are we when we are no longer reflected in the faces of the people around us? Who are we without all the external recognition? No praise or even rejection. No feedback at all to define us.
This might have left us lost. Or, uncomfortable and unsettled. Maybe you’re feeling a little of that?
I do not sleep at night , only to sleep from morning seven to two in the afternoon. It started with the thought that days are better slept than to be feeling purposeless and locked in room. At night, I feel everything, often inexplicably. Joy and sadness. Thrill and anger. Frustration and ease. And, of course, fear. But also, of course, excitement and connection. To feel it all requires courage. Emotional courage.
It takes a lot to be curious about ourselves, after all.
Often I avoid myself most , like a ostrich putting his head deep into the hole , in the dark. There it sees nothing , and has a feeling no body can see it. Exactly how I try to do with my thoughts. Yet this lock down, has been extending and it was inevitable that my dark thoughts will come crashing down. So after keeping myself lost and happy with new cooking recipes and Netfix shows that I did not even enjoy, for around 50 days of the locked down, I could not bear this helplessness and uncertainty of life that has been thrown to us.
I am a highly social person , an extrovert , who likes to be with people and do new things every moment possible. It makes me good at my job, of being one of the Best Guides to travel with , yet it does not make me a sorted person, in this times of patience and introspection.
No matter , how many videos and podcast from Spiritual Gurus, I hear or read, it just does not make this situation any better. I guess you can relate , that it is harder to be followed, those instructions than to advice our friends , when they say , they are feeling lonely. It is our basic human need I guess to share and to listen, to communicate and to crave bonding.
But with no way out , any sooner , I guess we have to slow down to face ourselves, what some of us have long avoided. It can be scary and exciting , but most importantly do we have the courage. To admit, to accept our darker side.
It is one thing to be all alone in the mountains, with survival in mind , and another to be helpless locked down in uncertainty. And as a part of stepping up , I am sharing this, with all of you , that yes I am also miserable now in the locked down.
Yet now that I have shared , I feel a little more at peace. Admitting my human side, my monsters that rumble up in my ever overthinking brain.
The greatest lesson though from this has been to tolerate myself, even with all my fears , and all my insecurities. May be the most valuable lessons are learnt in the hardest times. Times which we often dislike and we are forced upon , rather than choosing. In a world that runs so fast , and is connected so well, I kept hopping from place to place. Taking in the adventures and wanders, only may be, to keep my brain busy from the monsters that lurked in mind. It is futile to run from them, as they are mine, they are ME. And today or the other , I had to own them. So here it is , I accepting them , and trying to make peace with it.
I am also amazed that when I called some of my friends, who live a same life on road, they have been feeling the same, and did not know how to share and who to share. That I am not alone, makes me believe , that you are not alone too. Talk to people who feel the same. Even if some of them says " They are Doing Great in the Locked down ." , Do not get deter , and call up another.
If not any , let me know, I will share the misery we both carry. There is no shame in finding life hard at times, especially , in times like this.
Even if it seems unending, this lack of freedom , I have my hopes that we will see each other in travels by July!!!!
If you're reading this , probably you are a wanderlust bitten soul like me, only those end up in my life and blog. And with the recent times of pandemic, it has to be hard for you and me. Caged up in four walls , it is natural that we are facing bouts of frustration and severe lack of purposefulness. Even after cooking good meals , watching captivating Netflix shows , it cannot substitute the feeling of wandering and magic that it holds for our heart. However, even if we cannot travel, we can induce some habits that we have while traveling , to make our days happier in mind. I am personally practicing all of this , and it did make a difference in my mindset and happiness quotient.
I would like to share all of this with you , and know if it helped.
1. Don't Mourn the Bad Day , Look for the Future.
Just like while we are traveling, some days are worse than expected. You miss your bus , get robbed , loose some stuff behind or might meet a accident. If you travel a lot , you know how it is that bad days, even if not expected , just arrives.
Do we stop our entire trip for one such mishap ?
Do we give up the joy of discovery of the whole tour , for one such accident ?
I do not. And I think , you never did too. Because , what is an adventure without the unexpected. We just hope for the best, and look forward to the next day of the tour. The current scenario is one such. The present pandemic is out of our control and so is the lock down , and all we can do is hope for the future to come.
I have already listed two places , that I want to visit once this lock down is over. One immediate destination, close to where I am stuck. A bigger destination for three months from the end of lockdown.
Mind it , both destination has to be with in your country. Domestic tourism will continue , even if foreign travel suffers for a year. Fortunately , all countries have beautiful places to visit. Surely there will be such places near your home, and in your country , you need to look forward to. Use this time to research about those places, find best unknown trails to hike or heritage or history filled accommodation to stay. This will definitely help you. Try this and let me know?
Also if you want options of destinations to visit after lock down, I can give friendly suggestions of places, after consulting you on your budget , liking's and regarding where you are stuck. Message me , if you want a friendly consultation.
2. Eat as if You Travel.
While we travel, we are very careful about how much we eat , and what are we eating. Travelers are generally foodies, and like to taste a lot of different cuisines in different places, however , we never eat a lot when we are traveling to maintain health and avoid unnecessary problems of over eating. This is essential to be practiced in times like this. I am sure , if you are connected with me over facebook and instagram , you get to see me, preparing a lot of different dishes that looks yummy. It is delicious indeed , what I cook , but whatever I cook , I never eat a lot.
Savor the best of foods by eating small meals. This helps you digest well.
Moreover, we now have more time to think, which mostly procrastinates a lot. This also induces unnecessary hunger in us, even though our activities are less. To avoid gaining a lot of weight in this lockdown , we must practice eating small meals , if not less. Just as we do , while we travel.
I personally eat a lot of fruits while traveling, it helps serve the hunger and digestion. I am also practicing the same in the lock down. When ever you feel you have a hunger craving, try to go for a banana or orange.
Let me know , your idea of meals during the lockdown.
3. Learn in every Opportunity, you feel like.
While we wander, we are curios and learning. With open heart, we embrace all the knowledge and wisdom, we gain from every people we meet and places we visit. It is one of the most essential part of traveling, and we must imbibe this in current scenario.
Often times , we do not do the same in our daily life, since the views and routines have saturated our willingness to learn and curiosity has been replaced with laziness. We see the world around us in same glasses , and we miss out on good lessons. But this needs to change.
I hope we all learn things in our own liking during this time of lock down. Read a book or watch a documentary, research on Youtube or download a language app to practice, but do not do it , without indulging your mind to learn.
Do not force yourself, and do not take a strict obligation to learn. You do not have to finish a epic Noble winning theory after learning. Do not think, you need to learn something to a optimum level, but keep an open mind , and give at least half an hour of the day to learning something. Sometimes , learning happens naturally when you keep an open mind, like it occurs when we are traveling. We need to keep the same attitude.
I for one, have learnt how to peel the potatoes and onions faster, how to make a Roti circular. I learnt about the Delhi Sultanate and about the tribes in jungles of Borneo , through book and documentaries respectively.
Learning can be of any mean, it does not have to be solving big math's problem or life's existential crisis. It does not have to be for passing an exam or being looked upon as a wise man. Learn because you can, and it is fun.
4. Physical Activities to make our body tired.
While we are on trips, we walk , hike , swim or do things that makes our body tired. It is one of the things that brings a good night sleep , and is a big reason, we find ourselves so happy during travels.
Physical bodies are not meant to be idle, and activities that feel like labor or stress our muscles, helps in health and happiness directly. Very few people do not enjoy hiking or swimming. It is simply because, the natural way of our physical existence is to indulge in activities.
In the lock down , to substitute this habit from travel, it is of most important that we indulge in workout activities , to keep our mind and health at ace.
Instructions and videos on Home workouts are easily available , for beginners and other levels , on internet.
I suggest you try Yoga in the morning and a workout session in the evening, that's what I have been doing. Turn on some music , and do it inside your room , in the balcony or rooftop. This will bring a immediate increase of good mood. I am sure a lot of you , already do this, but for the ones, who aren't , you must. It will affect your metabolism , helping your eating habits and digestion. It will also help you get good sleep and keep the cycle of day and night quiet well. Try this and let me know , how you feel.
5. Meeting New People.
One of the most important thing during traveling is meeting new people and learning about them. It helps us , open a world in its own. A new person , is like a new book with stories to read and know of.
Now substitute this aspect of travel , in this lock down , by digitally connecting with people. I am sure , you do spend a lot of time in social media , even I do , more so in this lock down. Use it to participate and meet new people. Join yourself in social media groups that you have interest about. For any art , photography , wildlife , travel or sports, there are groups in facebook, get yourself added. Participate in fun posts, and connect to people who share good content. They can help you learn about things , and open your interest to many more.
You should also Try to create a content of your liking and share it. Connect with people who find a interest in your content. You will meet a lot of like minded people and soon enough , you can chat and find facts about things that intrigue you.
I love the fact , that I learnt about mental-ism from a new friend connected over Instagram , another shared about visa issues and remedies for foreign travel. On facebook, I connected with IIT and IIM passouts , who would like to open up small cafes and home stays in mountains or travel destination and live life like me. With a lot of them , I have healthy debates and discussion, ranging from various topics as politics to spirituality. All in all, I met amazing people and made new friends. Some have invited me for hangouts in their cities and offered their guidance.
Keep an open mind as we do while traveling, and connect with people. I admit , at times you might hit some people you do not tune at all, and that is okay. Un-following, Unfriending and blocking is as necessary in social media , as it is in life.
But it should not stop you from connecting with your kind of people, your tribe.
So do give it a try. And if this feels we are on same page , do connect over with me too! I am sure , we have a lot of interesting conversation waiting.
So this are some habits from traveling , that I have induced in my days of this quarantine. This has proved to be useful and helpful in making my mind happier in the lockdown.
If you have any suggestion or ideas like this , please let me know. Stay safe , hope to see you on an adventure soon.
A UNESCO heritage city , Ahmedabad has a fine balance of all that is modern and of the past , that is bygone. While famous for its textile industry , which is why it was coined under the British , by the name " Manchester of the East" , this city has a lot of business rush. A huge part of India's GDP comes from this ever money making city and its high merchant culture. However , behind this crazy business hot spot , Ahmedabad holds on to its old world charm, which had interested me the most.
The modern day city dates back to 1411 A.D , when the ruler Ahmed Shah , built his capital by the Sabarmati river , and named it Ahamdavad ( as per pronunciation.) With time, the city changed hands to different rulers from Mughals to Marathas to finally English. Due to this transfer , a multi ethnic community and its presence can be found in this city. With such diversity the city , evidently holds its heritage architecture and culture in tact, all well.
A walk in the old part of the city has been my highlight to understand the essence of this beautiful place. The people in the old city still lives in the old quarters and hold on to their culture. This Quarters an example of old days colonies were termed as POLs. Each Pol was dedicated to a community according to religion or profession they belonged to. The daily life , has changed over time due to the arrival of modern day living and amenities, however , at times , some scenes around the corner , takes you back in the past. I would recommend you to be patient , while taking the heritage walk in Ahmedabad. Sip in the details well.
Jainism is very prominent in this part of India, and for Jains , animals hold a special value. This is why you will see a lot of squirrels and birds nesting around the houses. They are also fed by the residents around. If you take in the detail, every part of the house is a architectural wonder of the old world ,with beautiful craftsmanship. Being a tour guide who finds passion and purpose in history , it is a treat to understand the neighborhood. Each place talks of the history that has been sustained in the continuous living colonies around the old city.
Manek Chowk , the old city square was a hub of jewelers and diamond merchants. To provide security to the shops, they had started a night food market , which overtime became a very popular go-to spot in the city. If you are a foodie, a late night visit to Manek Chowk is must. However , in the day time, it is still a busy market worth wandering to see the old buildings , such as the oldest stock exchange in the country. It is every building telling a story in itself and worth knowing them. It is of no surprise that , Ahmedabad is THE FIRST UNESCO HERITAGE CITY OF INDIA.
Being a tour guide who has worked for some of the most renowned photographers, I enjoy going around places which are photogenic. Ahmedabad surely , does not disappoint with the old charm and vintage rustic neighborhood. For photographers , it is a treat to capture, and special mention to the old wooden doors. Keep an eye for them , their intricate details and curving are finest art in presentation. Such a thing reflects that people , in the city were quite artistic and savored the influence of heightened craftsmanship. It also depicts , peace and harmony was to be found naturally, since only then people could be affluent of such art.
A long lineage of Muslim dynasty has left mark in the old town with the grand Jama mosque that sits like the crown of the city. Built in 15th century , it is an archaeological wonder indeed. Ending the heritage walk here will be icing on the cake. All in all , Ahmedabad , lives up to its reputation and is definitely a city to visit , to learn the culture and heritage of India. Honestly speaking , I never planned to go to Ahmedabad, and it is the presence of a dear close friend who prompted me to go and visit , this beautiful city. I only wondered why I never thought of the city before , as a destination to try. I guess often we miss out on things kept quietlt secret , and I assure you , Ahmedabad does have , quiet great ones up its sleeve.
The Reality about the People of Nagaland.
It is not unusual in my country to be discriminated for being different. Traditionally, India has always soaked in anyone from any background who came here. Religions , linguistics and every other form of social categories have always found a belonging in our country. So even after huge masses of immigration happened through out centuries , and everyone found a home in India, from time to time , we are be fooled to believe they were merely invasion. Not going into that discussion , as history is all about assumptions , yet we can see our ignorance as even in present times, we keep discriminating people of our own country for their different way of life. Here , from my experience I will try to light the true nature of Nagaland , as far as my experience of being their in my travels and tours.
The Nagas , refer to a cluster of tribes that belong from the northeastern states of India. To be told a fact , even outside Nagaland , Naga tribes spread in other states of Arunachal , Manipur , Assam and Mizoram. This tribes came into light under the British occupation of the region in late eighteen hundred. The origin of this tribes are disputed , as no strong historical evidence can be put forward to claim the source. However , at present there are 16 official tribes are inhabitants of the political region of Nagaland. English being brought in by the British with Christanity went a long way in bringing this tribes together. The ever warring Naga trives are now coexisting together for its development and in a quiet content way of living. They have reformed their practices , such as hunting into newer ways of economical avenues, saving the fine balance of nature and mankind. Being tribes, they always lived on hunting , and their ancestral accesories are all made of mostly tiger or leoprad claws, bones or skins of bear or deers found roaming in the wild, Bird feathers and meats are also quiet common for beautification and survival. However, with modern age , hunting has stopped , and they have conserved their forest for eco tourism to bloom and form the path towards a brighter future.
Being tribes, the people were very close to nature from there ancient days , and even now that can be seen in their general lifestyle. That dependency to nature and subsequent caring for it with utmost respect is what NAGALAND might inspire the rest of India to do. Almost all villages and tribes have a self sustainable living here. They depend highly on the nature that surrounds them. Wood from the forest , herbs for medicines or wild fruits to make wine and food is still a huge part of living in the modern Nagaland.
In ancient times, every tribe was almost at natural war with each other. Head hunting was a famous practice, where in , when two tribes met on battlefield, the winners would decapitate the fallen, and keep their heads or skulls as prize. These were awards to show the strength of a tribe and people. This practice is bygone now, and no more carried out. With modern social rules coming in, the tribes have found a cooperating existence among each other. Even though their languages and rules and laws , still differ, they adhere to the rules built up by the government. This is the proof , that if people are intending enough with good will , they can exist in peace. The Nagas known for their fierce battles and being warriors are also caring and happy family people, if you look closely. This myth , that Nagaland is only about soldiers and war , will soon perish as more and more travelers head there to see this beautiful culture.
Even though , in terms of GDP , the tribal areas do not contribute much , yet in the form of visions, they go a long way. Almost all houses in Nagaland have sustainable living, They make their general needs out of things they can find in their surrounding forest. From cultivating fishes to fruits and vegetables, each family has its treasure trove in its own , in the Naga country side. While on the tour in Nagaland , the food we eat in homestay is generally produced with in the surrounding of the house or cultivated, or found in the jungles nearby.
That was the way they lived hundreds of years ago, and still do. It is of importance to learn and realize this super value of the Naga society. Their needs are not much , and generally adheres to things that can be found with in the grasp of their natural habitat. The people here know how to make things and utilizes there time in every kind of handicraft possible from natural products, leaving no after effect on earth. The question is, with the advent of high consumerism , till when they can hold to their satisfied living?
Nagaland can also be called a state , where the rest of India must look up to for some inspiration , to diminish its conventional patriarchal miseries. Its a state ran by female power mostly. The Naga family heir is generally the youngest daughter of the house, and yet mostly family feuds are rare here, since their is a benevolent atmosphere. The homestays, where I lived in ,were all managed by women and they did a tremendous job. The women are also very productive here , since they create every house hold things necessary in the homes itself, rather relying on markets. Optimum utilization of time and nature can be seen, which needs to be implemented in our modern lives as much as possible too. Being a feminine driven state , the vibes are much more peaceful and relaxed here.
Nagas are primarily a non vegetarian population. The meats vary from tribe to tribe , but almost every tribe depends on that consumption. They have a healthy cuisine with lesser use of salt , as per my personal observation , which also helps their strong built. Chilies are heavily used , and cuisines mostly have meat as its primary ingredient. There is a negative obsession with what Nagas eat , specially the meat they consume. For the rest of India it is borne of classical conditioning. This curiosity behind the obsession , rather than being genuine, can be termed as a product of ethnocentrism of the Indian society.
A lot of this acceptance , that everything of a culture and tradition is because of the Geo political situation of a region and place , can be seen once you visit and live with the Nagas. This acceptance can breed tolerance and help our diverse country in bringing the ever glorified unity we so boast about , just like the different tribes of Nagaland has successfully practiced for modern coexistence.
Let me know your thoughts if you have been to Nagaland. If not, do plan up once, and let me know if my article motivates you to do so.
Covid-19 or Corona virus could be called the most talked about issue of the present times. Countries taking huge measures of shutting themselves up and locking it's people , have variety of reasons, some valid and some assuming. But I believe , what made Corona such a big news is it's power to affect the economy.
Every year millions die , unnatural death , through war , starvation and poverty , yet our lack of interest and ignorance is fueled by the amount of media attention and our respective government policies upon it. As Corona could affect the famous and rich , it was able to land up in every corner. Actors , politicians and people with spending power are affected , neither their power , fame or money could act as an immunity. Such a thing derives publicity , at least more than what "global climate change" could.
Even as now , clubs and pubs are closed , schools and colleges are shut down , The construction sites are still functional and running. I see the labourers working through the day , with same toils of hard work as any Normal day would. The poor are ignorant and stupid indeed, and the panic hasn't reached them yet. They don't make a huge portion of our " consumer class" population after all. They don't book the flight tickets , do not take vacations, do not eat in the restaurant or hangout in the exhorbantly charged pubs. They do not work in corporates and pay taxes or go to the malls having materialistic life, resulting being not so valid for the economy. They don't even bother to buy a mask, even now.
Does the Corona only affect the middle class and the rich ?
It does seem to be a Communist Virus !
Corona is putting our perspectives into place too.
A lot reduction of air pollution can be already seen throughout the locked down countries, people are forced to give more time to be with Themselves and have time in their hands unprecedented. People are taking in good habits of keeping themselves clean and more conscious about their health. People are also putting thoughts on what they eat , really matters.
Corona is also showing the consequences of our actions that was long due.
Our greedy impact on the planet , making tons of development in the narrow measure of money has backfired , and as per statistics, corporations and countries will hit a very Low growth and eventually financial losses in the coming fiscal quarters.
A hell lot of development ( as society thinks) , trying to move to new planets , achieving scientific brilliance , argument over our God's and stupid riots have all come to a pause. However , thanks to the panic created , we have also acknowledged that however educated or intelligent the most advanced species on Earth may be , when it comes to crisis , they are as selfish as any other organism on Earth. Hoarding , blame gaming and xenophobia are some examples of our super intellectual existence in this present crisis.
For now , it is futile to say , that we have learnt the lesson. When Corona has done what is due , it will become a normal part of life. Corporates will again start making profits , countries will again compete in the superficial measures of GDP , and we as humans will again exploit earth as we always have.
But for a time being , it's good to see the changes and I for one, is surely enjoying it.
Myths , Any Women should never Believe In
Humans are only identity obsessed creatures to walk the earth , who in every way has discriminated and categorized every living being in the name of understanding them better. Futile as it is , yet we follow this categorization and fight wars, inside and outside in our inconsequential time of existence. Such a war is between the man and woman, and it is highly defined neither one understands the another.
I don't agree to this, and in my journey with influence of loads of men and woman I learnt quite a bit about both the genders. Specially the misconceptions we have about our own gender. In this post I try to write only five of the Myths which I feel the women need to know and Not believe in to become the best human version of themselves.
1. Women who are physically attractive are likely to achieve more than who is not.
A huge myth marketed well and executed so that, you buy those expensive products and accessories to make yourself feel and look better. You are promised a job , a good man and a successful life on the eventual usage of the products and turning yourself in to a physically attractive person. And though I know how much you know about this lie , yet somehow your brain failed to cope with it. Because they have successfully made a myth , Your Truth!
Countries with darker skin are sold things that make them fairer , and countries with blatant white skins are sold tanning creams to make them darker. They never want you to feel good about yourself, they want you to be better. Because in better you will find the best Job , the Best Partner , the Best love story , the best successful life.
Do you think this is the truth?
Absolutely not! Physical appearance has nothing to do much with what you go on to achieve. The only time physical appearance should matter is when you are not healthy or fit enough to persue things you want. You will feel good if you are physically presentable , but that does not mean , you can't achieve what you want if you are not attractive on the exterior to some common notions of acceptance.
In the vice versa , women who are physically attractive did not only achieve what they did with their exterior beauty, but with hard work and brains. They look more attractive because they achieved what they wanted to , and what makes them happy.
In the end , just realize, How do you make something beautiful , when it is already such!
2. Women are physically weaker than their male counterparts.
A baby elephant is kept in chains as a child, and in is brain washed that it can never break away from the shackles, and it stays so, throughout it's life. Even when it is a massive beast, it never realizes the power it has to set itself free and goes on, to live a captive life, as in it's brain , it still believes those chains are unbreakable. Same is when a woman believes , they are physically weak.
This is one of the best propaganda played to make an entire gender believe they are weaker in physical strength. It is definitely not true. When I studied mountaineering , the topper of our batch who could climb fastest and do the most hard work was a woman. Even now when we organise hiking, a many of our porters are women taking huge amount of loads in their back , along with men by the side of them. They don't find any excuse, that they can't do that because they are a weaker gender.
Their lifestyle never allowed such a thought process. So hit the trail , lift the weights , practice martial arts or whatever you want to , and realize that you are physically as much strong as the other gender.
3. A marriage , kid and family completes a woman.
Another bullshit well played by the society to keep their laws. What completes a woman or any person is their purpose and their journey towards it. A relationship , another male partner, a legal sanction of that relationship and definitely a baby , will substitute it. As a woman , you are more prone to be judged if you aren't having a steady relationship with a man , a marriage or a baby. I know we need to change it , and am sorry it is such a way, but the best way to deal with it , is to accept , you are still amazing without a partner , a marriage or a baby.
Some of the best women I know are either self chosen single , divorced or separated who refused to take the shit dealt on them. They have more purpose and kindness to give back to the world and make it a better place.
This is not to say , that you will Not find happiness or purpose if you are married , with a child or having a family . But if you do, Do NOT JuDGE other women who doesn't fit in your condition and certainly do not propagate your ideas of marriage and kids in any uncomfortable manner.
The only validation to be complete is when you are absolutely doing nothing , having no one , just being yourself and yet not stressed or sad about the life that you're leading.
Some women find stability in a marriage , a family and baby. And some will find it , in her own endeavors, adventures and journey towards her purpose. Both is okay and acceptable.
You need to know this yourself.
You need to give this validation from yourself. Not from your family , friends or least of all, a man.
4. Being emotional is problematic.
Women are emotionally emphatic and that is also because of the timely hormonal shifts in the body. And due to this occurrance , you as a woman might have taken decisions that went poorly, or gained only pain and hurt in the past. But it is definitely not a bad idea to be emotional about things that truly matter to you. If something is a big deal to you , you should act on it. You are allowed to feel afraid , vulnerable and all kinds of mood that might scare your people around.
As a woman, you might have thought or been advised to be less emotional. You might have thought that you're emotions are a root cause of the failures or mistakes. It might have a part to play , but it is not entirely true.
Being emotional also gives the creative zest to creat things beautiful. It is a matter of knowing where to spend your emotions on. Also being emotional or accepting what emotions you feel truly , might be a good filter in longer run to know people in your close circle. People who are okay with you being what you are , emotionally erratic even , are the ones that are worth keeping. So feel all the emotions you feel , after all that makes you a human!
5. It is very hard ( not safe ) for women to travel Solo.
Probably the biggest myth that is stopping you from knowing who you are. You might love solo trip or you might not , but you will know yourself a lot better only when you take a journey all by yourself. And sorry you going back to visit your friends and family alone on a flight or bus , doesn't count!
One of the biggest reason women tend to stop from this amazing experience is for safety. I am not saying everything is perfect in the world , but it is not as bad as your parents , news paper or media reports it to be. You can ask any solo women traveler about this , and probably all of them will agree , that it may be stressful sometimes but not impossible.
Simple actions like keeping a pepper spray and a well researched plan for traveling before embarking can make all the difference. You don't need a man or another woman to travel safely , or even to be safe , you are enough. Easy to read, hard to realize and hardest to accept. As per as all the dangers that are considered risky while traveling , like being mugged or raped or sexually harassed, all of them have same chances of occurance even when you are Not Traveling.
Solo travel will influence a huge amount of Independence, self caring ability and definitely the power, you are ignoring in your Own self.
Lastly , all that I learnt are mostly from being with beautiful women I have worked with , traveled with , loved and taken care by, brought up by and experienced closely for time being in my life. This myths are what I highly feel irrational and hence I stand by my statement made here. But in the end , it is a personal view and not a universal to be accepted and agreed upon statement.
In any case , if you have a interesting and knowledgeable argument to be discussed upon like wise humans we are , I am all open ears. I will fly to your designated place to talk and know about your point of view , or in messages and chat. Hope you enjoyed the read and let me know for more myths as a woman should not believe!
See you soon on an adventure!
Note from the Author
" Travel made me rich and free. Magic and miracles are true , once you wander on the roads to places different and divine. Sharing with you all, those memories and stories , and wishing you all , that someday you guys travel far and wide too. I am not a great writer , so ignore my grammar and spellings, read it with feelings, and you might just be affected with the wanderlust to hit the road"