Humans are only identity obsessed creatures to walk the earth , who in every way has discriminated and categorized every living being in the name of understanding them better. Futile as it is , yet we follow this categorization and fight wars, inside and outside in our inconsequential time of existence. Such a war is between the man and woman, and it is highly defined neither one understands the another.
I don't agree to this, and in my journey with influence of loads of men and woman I learnt quite a bit about both the genders. Specially the misconceptions we have about our own gender. In this post I try to write only five of the Myths which I feel the women need to know and Not believe in to become the best human version of themselves.
1. Women who are physically attractive are likely to achieve more than who is not.
A huge myth marketed well and executed so that, you buy those expensive products and accessories to make yourself feel and look better. You are promised a job , a good man and a successful life on the eventual usage of the products and turning yourself in to a physically attractive person. And though I know how much you know about this lie , yet somehow your brain failed to cope with it. Because they have successfully made a myth , Your Truth!
Countries with darker skin are sold things that make them fairer , and countries with blatant white skins are sold tanning creams to make them darker. They never want you to feel good about yourself, they want you to be better. Because in better you will find the best Job , the Best Partner , the Best love story , the best successful life.
Do you think this is the truth?
Absolutely not! Physical appearance has nothing to do much with what you go on to achieve. The only time physical appearance should matter is when you are not healthy or fit enough to persue things you want. You will feel good if you are physically presentable , but that does not mean , you can't achieve what you want if you are not attractive on the exterior to some common notions of acceptance.
In the vice versa , women who are physically attractive did not only achieve what they did with their exterior beauty, but with hard work and brains. They look more attractive because they achieved what they wanted to , and what makes them happy.
In the end , just realize, How do you make something beautiful , when it is already such!
2. Women are physically weaker than their male counterparts.
A baby elephant is kept in chains as a child, and in is brain washed that it can never break away from the shackles, and it stays so, throughout it's life. Even when it is a massive beast, it never realizes the power it has to set itself free and goes on, to live a captive life, as in it's brain , it still believes those chains are unbreakable. Same is when a woman believes , they are physically weak.
This is one of the best propaganda played to make an entire gender believe they are weaker in physical strength. It is definitely not true. When I studied mountaineering , the topper of our batch who could climb fastest and do the most hard work was a woman. Even now when we organise hiking, a many of our porters are women taking huge amount of loads in their back , along with men by the side of them. They don't find any excuse, that they can't do that because they are a weaker gender.
Their lifestyle never allowed such a thought process. So hit the trail , lift the weights , practice martial arts or whatever you want to , and realize that you are physically as much strong as the other gender.
3. A marriage , kid and family completes a woman.
Another bullshit well played by the society to keep their laws. What completes a woman or any person is their purpose and their journey towards it. A relationship , another male partner, a legal sanction of that relationship and definitely a baby , will substitute it. As a woman , you are more prone to be judged if you aren't having a steady relationship with a man , a marriage or a baby. I know we need to change it , and am sorry it is such a way, but the best way to deal with it , is to accept , you are still amazing without a partner , a marriage or a baby.
Some of the best women I know are either self chosen single , divorced or separated who refused to take the shit dealt on them. They have more purpose and kindness to give back to the world and make it a better place.
This is not to say , that you will Not find happiness or purpose if you are married , with a child or having a family . But if you do, Do NOT JuDGE other women who doesn't fit in your condition and certainly do not propagate your ideas of marriage and kids in any uncomfortable manner.
The only validation to be complete is when you are absolutely doing nothing , having no one , just being yourself and yet not stressed or sad about the life that you're leading.
Some women find stability in a marriage , a family and baby. And some will find it , in her own endeavors, adventures and journey towards her purpose. Both is okay and acceptable.
You need to know this yourself.
You need to give this validation from yourself. Not from your family , friends or least of all, a man.
4. Being emotional is problematic.
Women are emotionally emphatic and that is also because of the timely hormonal shifts in the body. And due to this occurrance , you as a woman might have taken decisions that went poorly, or gained only pain and hurt in the past. But it is definitely not a bad idea to be emotional about things that truly matter to you. If something is a big deal to you , you should act on it. You are allowed to feel afraid , vulnerable and all kinds of mood that might scare your people around.
As a woman, you might have thought or been advised to be less emotional. You might have thought that you're emotions are a root cause of the failures or mistakes. It might have a part to play , but it is not entirely true.
Being emotional also gives the creative zest to creat things beautiful. It is a matter of knowing where to spend your emotions on. Also being emotional or accepting what emotions you feel truly , might be a good filter in longer run to know people in your close circle. People who are okay with you being what you are , emotionally erratic even , are the ones that are worth keeping. So feel all the emotions you feel , after all that makes you a human!
5. It is very hard ( not safe ) for women to travel Solo.
Probably the biggest myth that is stopping you from knowing who you are. You might love solo trip or you might not , but you will know yourself a lot better only when you take a journey all by yourself. And sorry you going back to visit your friends and family alone on a flight or bus , doesn't count!
One of the biggest reason women tend to stop from this amazing experience is for safety. I am not saying everything is perfect in the world , but it is not as bad as your parents , news paper or media reports it to be. You can ask any solo women traveler about this , and probably all of them will agree , that it may be stressful sometimes but not impossible.
Simple actions like keeping a pepper spray and a well researched plan for traveling before embarking can make all the difference. You don't need a man or another woman to travel safely , or even to be safe , you are enough. Easy to read, hard to realize and hardest to accept. As per as all the dangers that are considered risky while traveling , like being mugged or raped or sexually harassed, all of them have same chances of occurance even when you are Not Traveling.
Solo travel will influence a huge amount of Independence, self caring ability and definitely the power, you are ignoring in your Own self.
Lastly , all that I learnt are mostly from being with beautiful women I have worked with , traveled with , loved and taken care by, brought up by and experienced closely for time being in my life. This myths are what I highly feel irrational and hence I stand by my statement made here. But in the end , it is a personal view and not a universal to be accepted and agreed upon statement.
In any case , if you have a interesting and knowledgeable argument to be discussed upon like wise humans we are , I am all open ears. I will fly to your designated place to talk and know about your point of view , or in messages and chat. Hope you enjoyed the read and let me know for more myths as a woman should not believe!
See you soon on an adventure!
Note from the Author,
" Travel made me rich and free. Magic and miracles are true , once you wander on the roads to places different and divine. I have collected so many thoughts and stories while being a Tour & Trek guide for last seven years. Sharing with you all, those memories and stories , and wishing you all , that someday you guys travel far and wide too. I am not a great writer , so ignore my grammar and spellings, read it with feelings, and you might just be affected with the wanderlust to hit the road"